Editor's note: Giving hongbao (red envelopes stuffed with money) at weddings has been a tradition in China. Now many people are complaining that they are "shortchanged" when the gift is returned. Would you care if less amount of money is returned? Is money really that important at a wedding? Forum readers share their opinions.
manojitpal (India)
In my opinion it is not necessary to compare what you get in exchange of what you give...kind of narrow minded thinking. Maybe in return of 600 yuan getting 200 yuan is small amount, but financial condition, current circumstances is behind that. It's the thoughts that count.
tenith (Malaysia)
In China monetary gifts can be excessive especially when it comes to family related ones and friends. Given Chinese culture, wedding is to be celebrated to give a spark to the life of the newly-weds and also sharing of the good occasion. This part is significantly healthy as it bonds a society, families and friends closer and also gives the couple an occasion to remember. Sharing is a good culture and your Chinese style of monetary gifts is practical to share the cost of the occasion. But the amount shouldn't be too exaggerated a sum given that it is a symbolic sign of blessing.
Lily_ly (China)
To give a 'red envelop' is a traditional way to celebrate others wedding. But currently the money you need to give raise a lot. It almost becomes a burden to give red envelops every year. I think generally people should give the equal money as other people gave to you.
parcher (UK)
I now refuse to go to anymore weddings/birthday parties/ dogs 1st anniversary/ goldfish engagements etc......after being insulted a few times over the amount I gave.
